Views in verse on relationships

Relationships need to be 'Win-Win'


Anyone in business will tell you that a relationship will only survive as long as it's 'win-win'. 

Unless people are willing to compromise, best to accept the inevitable and get on with something else.









A toxic relationship may survive the short term but can often destroy the combatants who are trying to make it work ...even then it may still be doomed. Such relationships are often founded in false or unrealistic objectives.

Relationships need to be Win Win! 

If this is all so second nature to us in the objective business world, why does it sometimes seem so hard to recognise in our home lives? It perhaps takes an 'objective look' in the mirror before even engaging with others.

There's no secret to it.

The Gnome's Secret

Even the gnomes are smiling
Since you came back home today
It's a tough world that we've lived in
Since the day you went away
I hi- five'd the milkman
Down at the gate
as he bounded along his way
Even the gnomes are smiling
You've come back home to stay

The cats were moody
The dog was blue
The goldfish...
he just stared
The jug and the fridge both went on strike
Unconcerned about how I fared
The 'soaps' were crap
My beer went flat
My neighbours all seemed to leer
My friends stayed away
Seemed the whole damn time
My appetite went all queer

I thought that a movie 
might brighten me up
The plot changed half way through
Instead of the usual good guy stuff
De Niro became the stooge
I went on a date
To try my luck
No substitute for you
She started heckling
And poking fun
never seen
such a maudlin fool

I went looking for you
Tried your mum's
Now that was a big mistake
She came right at me
I stumbled back
And stepped on the garden rake
It flew right up
Knocked out a tooth
See the one missing right here
Then to follow it up
Joan king-hit me 
With a mighty clip to the ear

Went to the doctor to sort things out
There must be a cure for this
I tried to express it
But he couldn't guess it
Said son I think it's the 'flu
I said Doc you're kidding
It's this life I'm living
Now I've blown fifty dollars as well
Should throw out a shingle 
Just like you
I've got advice to sell

But now 

even the gnomes are smiling
Since you've walked back in today
It's a tough world we've lived in
Since the day you went away
I hi-five'd the milkman
Down at the gate
as he bounded along his way
Even the gnomes are smiling...

Hey ...why's that cab in the lane?

from the desktop of Grahame J Flynn Views in Verse

'You can't give up on love' - or so the Alan Jackson song goes

Views in Verse - on 'new horizons'.

'Are you into 'one night stands' ...racing home after 'holding hands'?

Seems to me though too many people when they go out looking for love ...aren't really!




Social norms are too often not really that 'personal' despite the hype. And as sure as night folds into day: we all wake to be ...just me!

 

Tomorrow night

Too much 'me time' with my dog 

Or playing with that old blog

Hey ...it's time ...I got on out

and had some fun!

A chance to catch up with 'somebody new'

whose motives might just be true

Someone I might just really want
to hold on to...

Cause I'm not into one night stands

Racing home after holding hands

To be frozen in the morning fog

Asking "where to now?"

So this night 

is the first night 

where I work from some sort of plan

To never ever make those same mistakes again

  

There are many many girls in this club to-nite

And lots of and lots of them would surely be alright

But the kinda special girl that I really wanna meet 

Is the kinda special girl that I really wanna see again

Tomorrow ...night!  tomorrow ...night!

Lots of girls are keen to dance

I'm ok to take a chance

I've met Shannon, Stacey, 

Jade, Jen, Nici and Jane

But this night is the first night

That I'll stick to my new plan

To never ever make those same mistakes again

  

I can take her out to the movies

Take her out to a show

Take her to a place where she's always wanted to go

Or maybe just spend some time in the sun

just to see her having fun

And to hope that she'll 

really...

really ...

really want to see me again!

There are many many girls in this club tonite

And lots of and lots of them would surely be alright

But the kinda special girl that I really wanna meet 

Is the kinda special girl that I really wanna see again

Tomorrow ...night! tomorrow ...night!

Sent from my iPhone - Grahame J Flynn

Unmet expectations come at a cost...

Views in Verse - on consequences.


Unmet expectations come at a cost... consequences

Promises

Turn away from the window

Come back over here...
try to see hope and not fears
Tomorrow's a stranger
that we should embrace
Why revisit yesterday's tears?

Today's promises
Aren't tangible things
In the way that most things are real
But they carry a cost
if forgotten or lost...
the very heart of what you feel

Who knows why
A matter of trust
Can be broken so easily?
What to do...
When things don't turn out
The way that you
thought they would be?

Yesterday's promises
Aren't tangible things
In the way that most things are real
But they carry a cost
when forgotten or lost...
the very heart of what you feel


Sent from my iPhone - Grahame J Flynn

Views in Verse on loyalty

 

Views in Verse - on loyalty. 

'Love' in life counts for nothing ...without loyalty.

Four AM Hay & George

"At it's core ...a spiteful act"
The Sarge said at the time
"The killer fired so many shots
I'm left in just one mind..."

"His ring was in his pocket...
The motive is quite clear..."
"I'd back my work of thirty years
in what I'm saying here"

"That the men just love to be loved
and the women just want to be wanted
Yes...the men just love to be loved
Oh and the women just want to be wanted"

"Perhaps her rage was triggered by
the age of this one's charms
maybe he has strayed before
to another's willing arms..."

"But officers
I tell you this
as I stand here this grey day
The woman scorned
is my first bet
to act in this crazed way
Against my fears
In all these years
I've seen this notion true..."

"That the men just love to be loved
And the women just want to be wanted
I said the men just love to be loved
Oh and the women just want to be wanted"

"She'll likely return to her home
She'll be shocked by what she's done
Probably no place else to go
without her chosen one"

"Take her in boys ...but please be kind
She's 'lost her life' today
and remember...
sometimes in cases like this one
The family blocks the way"


"Too many times
...too many times
I've seen this reoccur
And in telling you now
of my first thoughts
I'm left with only words
a loss of basic tenets
the 'wherefores and the why's"

"That the men just love to be loved
And the women just want to be wanted
I said the men just love to be loved
Oh and the women just want to be wanted"


In the wee small hours of this new day
His words come back to mind
in all the murders of this type
I'm reminded to be kind

But it makes you truly wonder
of so many folk at large
So unaware I have to say
to the wisdom of old Sarge...

lost in a world of distraction?
succumbed to fatal charm?
or is it just hardwired
to the truth...?

"that the men just love to be loved
while the women just want to be wanted
I said the men just love to be loved
Oh and the women just want to be wanted"

Oh and the women just want to be wanted"
"...yes the women just want to be wanted..."


Sent from my iPad - Grahame J Flynn

Suburban life - crisis what crisis? Life is what you make it!

Views in Verse - on opportunities.


Suburban life - crisis what crisis? Life is what you make it!

 

Life in the slow lane

I was shopping at Coles
as my story begins
The usual line
a trolley full of things

Waiting my turn
Way back in the queue
With my mind in neutral
as you so often do

When a word from 'Fi'
changed my life
That sees me now
With a brand new wife...
And yes a new family to boot

But it wasn't long before this
Cindy left me
Feeling alone and very empty
With little else in life
than my beloved teenagers three

(Optional Chorus)
Singing, live life as you take it
Take life as it goes
Cos no matter what you're facing
Everyday is gonna go
Better days are waiting for you
Just you wait and see
Turn around you'll find me waiting
Come a come a long with me!

Back to Coles
and the day I met Fi'
Who grabbed
the chance to charm me
On a whim and an offer
she found too hard to resist

She knew of a deal in the adjoining cafe
Where you get a free coffee
and the cake of the day
All we needed do
was rock on in and join the fun


But wait again...
None of this happened right to plan...
In fact ...we gulped our drinks
and scoffed our flan
Both a little preoccupied
with each new day
and the crisis that it brings...

As it turned out
we hadn't spoken at all
When Fi told me about her
'bluebird call'
that had come from our trip
to the Café Amor that day

They entered our names
in a lucky draw too
For a prize by Terry
the travel guru
'Life in the slow lane
- a tropical cruise' for two!"

In truth it was a bit awkward
for Fi and me
Several months had gone by
without a chance to meet
or even chat about
a planned night out together

But look...
we opted to go
and consider it all
Back to our cafe
and a chance to jaw on
whether we were ready
to sail away and party
like two 'old friends'

But hey we thought
...why say no?
What's the risk
 ...friends said go!
And so we went
with best wishes
from all of our kids as well

Fi as it turns out also has three...
But would take the ten days
with me
to test the whim she had
when she
grabbed me by the arm
that day...

As things go
...we fell silly in love
Under the sea cruise stars above
We told the kids that week
and really just
couldn't wait to wed

They met us there
in Nandi town
Where we quickly
got on down
to planning the best damn wedding
that there has ever been...

 And so it was!

These days...
we still support the local shops
And share a big trolley
and coffee 'opps'
While our kids
are warming to each other more
with every passing day

We also share
a brand new house
Our cats and dogs
they scuttle about
Like the rest of us here
on this wild, wild ride...
such is this
...our brave new family

So ...we all seem to be fitting in
And Fi and me could only but grin
on how it all came to be
after almost missing our chance
on starting over again

One day we were just
struggling along...
the next thing we are
growing strong
...now in Rome
celebrating the anniversary

But for this trip
we surely have paid
our now mate Terry,
a master of his trade;
sees us in Paris too
for little more money
it seems

With a 'rental car'
Thrown in for free
Such great luck really
have we
It promises a great life ahead
for Fi, ...the family ...and me!!'


Sent from my iPhone - Grahame J Flynn

How many chances do we get in life to become who we really want to be...

Views in Verse - on courage.


How many chances do we get in life to become who we really want to be...

but how hard is it to surrender the life we know to take that desired step?

The path not taken

I came to this place
To escape a life
That seemed to have me in chains
My work too
A constantly evolving source of
Tiredness, stress & strain

She shook my life
To my surprise
One year to this very day
She touched me deeply
Right to my soulI
In a wild and untamed way

Dark skin against the sun
She spoke to me
Through her hands
In rhythm and rhyme
With her place in time
Amongst those golden sands

Dancing in the dunes past midnight
Playing all day in the sea
Deep in her eyes was a story in time
A brave new world to me

She spun me willing
In that web
For five amazing days
She showed
How simple life can be
With her culture and her ways

When the time had come
For me to leave
I just up'd and walked away
And  why
I didn't write or call
I don't know to this day

Dancing in the dunes till midnight
And dreaming the hours away
Brought to me an inner peace
Not known up to those days

Her visage against the sun
My thoughts I can 't allay
I toss and turn in bed at night
My mind it tricks and plays

Lying in the dunes till morning
Night breezes on bodies bare
And feeling yes somehow feeling
That she would always always be there

So ...
Will I go to her again
Or am I made to pay?
For failing to do
That something new
With the path not taken that day


Forwarded from my Iphone - Grahame J Flynn

How easily can the hunter become the prey?

Views in Verse - on predators.


We go through life thinking we live life on our terms - especially where ego can cloud our judgement. But how easily can the hunter become the prey?

Big Ball Baby

I stood on my own after a long day's work
Each shot tasting better than the last
The bar was noisy and the band was loud
my time for staying near past
Yes my time for staying past

Then from out of nowhere
she came to me
and just kind of took me along
Her body was lean her lines were clean
Just as the band played this mad song
and as the whole crowd sang along

Big ball  baby won't you dance with me
I've been waiting all day for this
Good time boy won't you party with me
Let's start the night with a  kiss
Yes, yes ...let's start it off with a kiss

We danced for a while up on a crowded floor
She was popping down pill after pill
The throbbing beat
Her growing heat
She mesmerized me still
Yes she mesmerized me still

Her lips were close her body was near
I quivered from my toes to my head
She flicked me a smile
Stared straight into my eyes
moved up real close and said
Yes she got real close and said

Big ball baby put your arms round me
Each day feels longer than the last
Good time boy won't you drive me home
My time for dancing's past
Yes ...yes ...my time for dancing's past

When we stopped at her gate
She ran to the door
the handle she did shake
Without looking back
She ran straight inside
Leaving a cool looking dude in her wake

He looked over at me
gave me a knowing smile
And spoke in a calm kind of voice...
"I've got no idea what she says to you guys
But man she always makes this choice
Yes man she always makes this choice"

 "I'm sure she's glad you brought her on home
Please take some thanks from me
She often does this 'coming in late'
Because she just don't drive you see
No ...no she just don't drive you see"

Then he was gone with no more to add
And as he did he waved his ring
Then once more I heard her cry out loud
Once again I heard her sing

Big ball baby dance close to me
I've missed you all the day long
Take me in your arms make love to me
Cause my feelings are so strong ... yes, yes
My feelings are so strong

(then I heard her say)

Big ball baby won't you lay with me
I need you at the end of the day
To chase away the pain ....take care of me
And keep that sun away
Yes ...yes ...keep the day at bay


Grahame Flynn - Sent from my iPhone

Ah love lost - many stories written - too often laced with vitriol!

Views in Verse - on relationships.


Our key influences stay with us through life

 There is a silver lining in most experiences in life, if we look hard enough for it? Are we not enriched in some way by every relationship we have?

Certainly some impact the remainder of our lives

First Love

A hint, a trace, some words...?
What is it of her
that I can really say?
I remember well our first meeting
way back, at school, a summer's day

And then...
the two of us together
Memory has it
always holding hands
Giving time to each other
and just wandering...
around the streets, the beach, the bands

But now...
the best part of a lifetime
Her presence...
I still do so often find
comes to me
ever easy
from a quiet corner of my mind

She lives there deep inside of me
So deep inside of me
Sweet memory from a simpler day
They say your first love never leaves you
But comforts you and leads you
Never leaves you, never leaves you
Come what may

I travelled quite soon
after my schooling
That year in the city
it came at quite a price
We drifted time would tell
too far from the well
and then just ...got on ...with our lives

But thru the years
she's been there like a beacon;
life since then
hasn't always been that kind
A thought; a shot sublime
she'll cross my troubled mind
Like a trusty top that must unwind

She lives there deep inside of me
So deep inside of me
Sweet memory from a simpler day
They say your first love never leaves you
Just comforts you and leads you
Never leaves you, never leaves you
Come what may

Our fledgling years they
held such fears for each of us it seems
A time of just not knowing what to do
But when touched by a sign
Of these early times
It takes me ....to this private world ...we knew

A friend of mine a while back
said that he'd seen her
Couldn't wait to say :
 "she remembers you"!
I was happy at the time
just to hear that she was fine
...her welcome touch would
keep on coming through...

She lives there deep inside of me
So deep inside of me
Sweet memory from a simpler day
They say your first love never leaves you
But comforts you and leads you
Never leaves you, never leaves you...
Come what may...

We drifted time would tell
Too far from the well
And then ...just ...got on ...with our lives



Sent from my iPhone - Grahame J Flynn

Who says when a relationship is actually over?

Views in Verse - on closure.


Who says when a relationship is actually over?

Who says when a relationship is actually over? Sometimes running the risk of becoming dysfunctional perhaps toxic ...before closure is indeed remotely possible.


Forbidden Fruit

When incompatibility
breeds denial
A strange new desire arrives
A tawdry lust settling in
that defies all logic and thrives

Every hour
of such abuse
brings days and days of pain
Bitter sweet the self indulgence
week on week again

Two magnets
pressing hard
Strong signals in deep disarray
Bent emotion out of control
In keeping resolve at bay

Forbidden fruit
is damaging;
regression is it's tool
A tempest of weary obsession
that confounds a toxic fool

All advice
from all involved
shouts a clear conclusion
Even my car
has a mind of its own
Routine feeds delusion

Déjà vu ...I'm back again
I've called
but she's not at home
Frustrated, lost, ...appalled
I wander off ...alone

Getting on with life
makes such good sense
We made that decision together
Yet we hurt each other
at every turn
We must move on ...whatever!

Forwarded from my Iphone - Grahame J Flynn