Views in verse on relationships

Relationships need to be 'Win-Win'


Anyone in business will tell you that a relationship will only survive as long as it's 'win-win'. 

Unless people are willing to compromise, best to accept the inevitable and get on with something else.









A toxic relationship may survive the short term but can often destroy the combatants who are trying to make it work ...even then it may still be doomed. Such relationships are often founded in false or unrealistic objectives.

Relationships need to be Win Win! 

If this is all so second nature to us in the objective business world, why does it sometimes seem so hard to recognise in our home lives? It perhaps takes an 'objective look' in the mirror before even engaging with others.

There's no secret to it.

The Gnome's Secret

Even the gnomes are smiling
Since you came back home today
It's a tough world that we've lived in
Since the day you went away
I hi- five'd the milkman
Down at the gate
as he bounded along his way
Even the gnomes are smiling
You've come back home to stay

The cats were moody
The dog was blue
The goldfish...
he just stared
The jug and the fridge both went on strike
Unconcerned about how I fared
The 'soaps' were crap
My beer went flat
My neighbours all seemed to leer
My friends stayed away
Seemed the whole damn time
My appetite went all queer

I thought that a movie 
might brighten me up
The plot changed half way through
Instead of the usual good guy stuff
De Niro became the stooge
I went on a date
To try my luck
No substitute for you
She started heckling
And poking fun
never seen
such a maudlin fool

I went looking for you
Tried your mum's
Now that was a big mistake
She came right at me
I stumbled back
And stepped on the garden rake
It flew right up
Knocked out a tooth
See the one missing right here
Then to follow it up
Joan king-hit me 
With a mighty clip to the ear

Went to the doctor to sort things out
There must be a cure for this
I tried to express it
But he couldn't guess it
Said son I think it's the 'flu
I said Doc you're kidding
It's this life I'm living
Now I've blown fifty dollars as well
Should throw out a shingle 
Just like you
I've got advice to sell

But now 

even the gnomes are smiling
Since you've walked back in today
It's a tough world we've lived in
Since the day you went away
I hi-five'd the milkman
Down at the gate
as he bounded along his way
Even the gnomes are smiling...

Hey ...why's that cab in the lane?

from the desktop of Grahame J Flynn Views in Verse

Ozzy Osbourne ...out of the fire ...into a marriage forged in iron

Views in Verse on marriage. 

I have just read the history of Black Sabbath - one of the few truly endearing heavy metal bands from the Seventies. My son gave me the book for Christmas; being myself a refugee from a garage rock band way back then. Some things you just can't leave behind.

Sabbath - never as good in my opinion as Led Zeppelin and Uriah Heep who were from similar roots - but hey they did have that something 'unique'. This isn't a review of the band however... so I won't go there further. Indeed I wouldn't recommend the book (Symptom of the Universe)  to most people unless they have a truly broad interest in English rock bands of the period.

Notwithstanding that, this book, very well written by Mick Wall, is a great expose on the evolution of a marriage of Ozzy & Sharon that 'morphed' over the thirty years or more in question. The background being, the hardest part for the band wasn't the five years of initial fame - it was the tortuous decades that followed. To me the relationship of Ozzy & Sharon is the only real survivor of the book; where most of it paints a very sad picture of human destruction by drugs and fame.

Sharon Osbourne, anything but the English rose being the tough daughter of a rock promoter, steadfastly builds a marriage and family with this 'hollow man', whom she not only rescues from himself, but teaches him to live to be 'who he is' - the hardest thing for a recovering addict to accept. And of all the things that Ozzy had to achieve, a long term marriage would always seem his 'hill too far'. And let's be honest, he isn't alone.

I often think as we stand and speak at weddings and try to paint a picture of what is to come in life for newly weds, we very rarely attempt to paint the whole picture. We can only dwell on the romance of it all. It is far too complicated otherwise. Simply because, you haven't lived your life till you have lived it; and every couple's journey is a truly unique one...no other compares. None more colourful and challenging than the intersecting lives of the Osbournes though ...regardless of it all, they seem to have survived the ride.

Well done Ozzy - not bad for a self professed "fucking dummy from the 'black country' who never knew anything about anything"!

Rings around the moon

I give you my solace
You deflect my pain
You rebuff my feelings
Again and again

You look back 'stony'
I revisit my words
You insist upon leading
I shout to be heard

Two steps forward
Then one back
A loud tumultuous dance
It needs intervention
That's for sure
Yet little will happen by chance

Choice is a given
Throughout our lives
The actions our own
For want or for try
To step out of time
A very fine line

Running rings around the moon
Yes ...rings around the moon
We've more chance
To be one day seen
Running rings around the moon

Our best behaviour's
on show a while
It was good last May or June
But going astray
Is not ok
not even in coming Junes

We came together
not by chance
We both came knowingly
a fledgling thing...
a lifetime ring...
a bold ship tossed at sea

some days aren't easy
some days surprise
to hold it together
...to realise
...to give  up the dance
...to forfeit the prize

Running rings around the moon
Yes rings around the moon
We've a chance
To be one day seen
Running rings around the moon

As a pair
we are well matched
so people seem to say
I guess this view
Comes right from 'us'
A face we both portray...

I speak your thoughts
You speak mine too
The words come out one way
Two different lives
transformed as one
and gifted to this day

The die is thrown
The thread is hewn
We won't release it
now or soon...
...this vice like grip
...this binding tune

Running rings around the moon
Yes ...rings around the moon
Locked in time
On a one time path
Running rings around the moon

Running rings around the moon
Yes ...rings around the moon
For better or worse
On a one time path
Running rings around the moon

Sent from my I-phone - Grahame J Flynn

T'was the night before Christmas ...and not a good wish in sight anywhere

Views in Verse - on contentment


The economists of late have been having a field day in bagging the inevitable decline of the western economies and prefacing the misery that will be to come as a result.

Everything ...from: what you will be doing without in a few years (the predictable list of ten ranked 'to be lost' items) to the charts showing the new third world 'rising stars' against the 'new poor' of western establishment by whatever criteria can be made to suit.

Well I don't know about your thoughts, but it is hard for economists to say anything positive any time; even at a time when both US, UK, Japan and Europe are showing signs of recovery. Beats me?

I am in truth of a view that the luxury goods we have had access to recently appear to be even cheaper these days since globalisation. So where is the problem? And as far as the real lagging measure goes ...I'll take real happiness any day compared to the 'how many toys you end up with' approach. Perhaps 'contentment' in  life is a better key indicator that I would suggest.

It all depends on how you measure value in the end. How you live your life will always be the yardstick of true happiness ...skyrockets may light up the night but they shine for only a few fleeting moments.



By Candlelight

To-night is the night
I've been thinking about all week
away from mundane chores
the 'our time' that we seek
We do the shop together
choose the menu with some care
We try to make it simple though
...easy to prepare
Just you 'n me so right
Dinner ...by candlelight

I'm happy to serve it up
As you like to fix your hair
A glass of wine before we sit
Brings 'still' beyond compare
The music that you choose
Brings thoughts of long ago
The talk is flowing now
The fire burning low
And here we are so right
Romance ... by candlelight

The kids ...out for the night
Brings release from the 'mo'
Our chat turns to talking 'bout
people that we know
We  talk too of stellar times
Of travel to and fro
Laugh about the children too
And how they tease us so
Easy to feel so right
Laughter ...by candlelight

A kitchen clean-up
jolts routine into the air
No need to rush it though
It's 'our time' that we share
The weekend brings a window
Lots of hours to spare
Let's just enjoy it too
the morning awaits there
now so right
Bedtime ...by candlelight




Grahame Flynn - Sent from my iPhone

Views in Verse on loyalty

 

Views in Verse - on loyalty. 

'Love' in life counts for nothing ...without loyalty.

Four AM Hay & George

"At it's core ...a spiteful act"
The Sarge said at the time
"The killer fired so many shots
I'm left in just one mind..."

"His ring was in his pocket...
The motive is quite clear..."
"I'd back my work of thirty years
in what I'm saying here"

"That the men just love to be loved
and the women just want to be wanted
Yes...the men just love to be loved
Oh and the women just want to be wanted"

"Perhaps her rage was triggered by
the age of this one's charms
maybe he has strayed before
to another's willing arms..."

"But officers
I tell you this
as I stand here this grey day
The woman scorned
is my first bet
to act in this crazed way
Against my fears
In all these years
I've seen this notion true..."

"That the men just love to be loved
And the women just want to be wanted
I said the men just love to be loved
Oh and the women just want to be wanted"

"She'll likely return to her home
She'll be shocked by what she's done
Probably no place else to go
without her chosen one"

"Take her in boys ...but please be kind
She's 'lost her life' today
and remember...
sometimes in cases like this one
The family blocks the way"


"Too many times
...too many times
I've seen this reoccur
And in telling you now
of my first thoughts
I'm left with only words
a loss of basic tenets
the 'wherefores and the why's"

"That the men just love to be loved
And the women just want to be wanted
I said the men just love to be loved
Oh and the women just want to be wanted"


In the wee small hours of this new day
His words come back to mind
in all the murders of this type
I'm reminded to be kind

But it makes you truly wonder
of so many folk at large
So unaware I have to say
to the wisdom of old Sarge...

lost in a world of distraction?
succumbed to fatal charm?
or is it just hardwired
to the truth...?

"that the men just love to be loved
while the women just want to be wanted
I said the men just love to be loved
Oh and the women just want to be wanted"

Oh and the women just want to be wanted"
"...yes the women just want to be wanted..."


Sent from my iPad - Grahame J Flynn